Use it or Lose it

My writing muscle is a bit weak these days.  Much like working out my abs or God-forbid my butt, it’s a use-it-or-lose it scenario.  I have found that the less I write, the less I am able to think, or get words out of my head in a conversation.  But how is this even possible?

With a quick glance of my past posts, the last time I actually attempted any creativity with a keyboard was well over a year ago.  So if my writing were my ass cheeks or abs, you would be looking at nothing but cellulite and dimples in helevetica 8 form right now.

I remember the very night I started this blog.  I had absolutely no idea how to use WordPress, work my way around the dashboard, much less upload anything to anywhere.  After the first five hour evening, which felt longer than an entire season of Mad Men, I wanted to hunt down the creator of WordPress and toss a flaming bag of dog poop on his front porch.

But I am a “doer” and  not a quitter, so I persevered, and finally after a day and a half of struggling and retracing my keystrokes like a kindgardner in her first fingerpainting class, I posted my first “story” and waited for signs of “views.”  After several hours went by,  it was still just me and the crickets — a whole lot of silence and chirpping, but no views.

I tossed and turned as I tried to fall asleep that night, wondering why no one had read my cute little story.  Was it bad?  Was it too long? Too short?  Silly?  Dumb? Irrelevant?  Thank God the Sand Man eventually kicked my butt and I got some sleep — at least until I had to get up to go to the bathroom three times!

I woke up refreshed and ready to take on my laptop whether anyone cared to read my thoughts or not.  While counting sheep I realized that the only way I would be able to write an honest thought was if I were to write for myself rather than the hypothetical cyber audience whose validation I was craving.

So here I sit today with my computer perched on my lap, relaxed and ready to craft something inspirational, and the only thing I can think about are the sheep I counted the very first night I started this blog.  I guess I’ll have to hope for an honest thought perhaps tomorrow or the next day, or maybe even the next.  At least I now know it doesn’t matter when I write, what matters is that I write something, sometime.  Tonight, my fingers are willing but my brain cells say, “Sleep!” and right now, my brain cells are not winning!

by: Shelli Wilder Netko


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Have a Heart for Mom – by Shelli Netko

(Modified from “Growing Older” 9-2011)

Elizabeth Stone said, “Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.”  I learned what Elizabeth meant by this 28.5 years ago and have had an exponential learning curve of how to live with your heart walking all about the house, the city, the state and the world for that matter since then – it just never ends once that decision is made.

This year my second daughter will have the privilege of finding out what Elizabeth is talking about, and I’ll become a Grandmother for the first time.  Her momentous time will come in August.  Needless to say, this Mother’s Day Continue reading

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Holiday Greetings 2010

Peace comes from within.  Do not seek it without. – Buddha

We’re back after a brief 3-year break from our traditional family Holiday card and letter.  We’ve taken the time to regroup, exhale and grab a nice, long group hug – in no particular order.

Gone are the days of our typical holiday letters of family updates and kid shenanigans with a cleverly woven-in sentimental message.  Yes, those letters were nice and had meaning, but nowadays even “meaning” has taken on much more meaning.

Today our message is straight from the heart.  It’s the simplicity of six family members who this year will spend their 4th Christmas without the best jolly old elf/Dad/husband/fake Santa who ever walked the face of this round planet in his well-worn size 14 DSW bargain-priced shoes.  It’s been an adjustment, but our love for each other and for “the big guy” has brought us closer and made us stronger.

As we’ve moved forward, we’ve learned there are a lot of ways you can look at death.  More importantly, we’ve learned there are so many more ways to look at life.  One of them is through the eyes of someone you love, and want to be more like. 

On that note, we, the family, all strive to be more like Don who loved searching for and collecting great quotes; they are such a great reflection of where a person has been and what he values at the time a particular quote seems to really hit home – right where the heart is. 

Our gift to you is a little piece of ourselves – the gift of quotes.  They come from the “soul,” – that place inside of us we cannot physically touch or see, but we know when someone is close to it because when they’re gone we are never quite the same again.

“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us”. –Ralph Waldo Emerson (from Kim)

“Don’t fear tomorrow or regret the past, live for what’s now and never look back”. – Author unknown (from Erica)

“Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over it became a butterfly”.  Author Unknown (from Angie)

“To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived, this is to have succeeded”. – Ralph Waldo Emerson. (from Hayley)

“You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself wherever you choose”. – Dr. Seuss (from Ross)

“No soul that aspires can ever fail to rise; no heart that loves can ever be abandoned. Difficulties exist only that in overcoming them we may grow strong.” – Annie Besant (from Shelli)

“Sieze the Day. (Carpe Diem) Put as little trust as you can in tomorrow.” – Horace (from Don)

This holiday season, whether you choose to carpe cheesecake, carpe cuddle, or carpe diem, it is our wish that you “carpe something.”  You just never know when you’ll get another chance to enjoy what you love again – be it a dessert, a hug from a loved one, or just another day on this beautiful earth.

Peace, love, family and wishes for a truly Blessed New Year. God is good; He has a plan; and He never makes mistakes.   – The Netko Family

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On Father’s Day – The Serious Side

On Father’s Day

I read a fact the other day that surprised me; it stated that Father’s Day wasn’t a holiday until 1972 when President Richard Nixon signed a bill introducing it into our American Hallmark world. June and necktie sales haven’t been quite the same since then.

Mother’s Day, on the other hand has been around since the 1920’s I believe. This isn’t surprising, Continue reading

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Time to take stock of your life

There are a few times of the year that people tend to take stock of their life (or is it stalk?) – There’s New Year’s Day, their birthday, and for many, the all important tax day. I didn’t realize this until this weekend as I sat and poured over 360 day’s worth of receipts and financial records that would have made a trail left by Jason Bourne look understandable and traceable.

Every year I go through the same thing along with millions of other Americans who suck at record keeping and aren’t exactly masters of minutia – I tell myself that “This won’t happen next year” or “I’ll change my ways starting April 16th.”

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Sometimes its a dog’s day

 I got to thinking about it the other day and wondered if I have A.D.D.   I was sitting at my desk where there were pieces of paper, random sticky notes, a few bills that need paid and a couple of business cards laying on what I call a work surface.

Staring at me was my less than trusty Dell laptop with an excel document window open, a word document minimized, and windows mail waiting for me to do something with the contents of five email accounts at some point.  It was the visual interpretation of chaos maximus on my physical and computer desktops — not even kidding.

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Inspired by inspiration

This weekend we did one of those movie marathons which we haven’t done in awhile and I have to say, we must do again soon. The secret to a perfect movie marathon is to make sure you’ve got adult beverages on hand, there are no kids around, Continue reading

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